When we
look in today’s magazines or on TV shows, most of the time
we see these very slim, sometimes skinny models on almost
every page or every teen show. Young girls want to be like
these models and live that glamorous life. Image is so
important to these girls that they want to control the
amount of food that is digested into their bodies to
control how they look. Everyone is different: genetically
and their metabolism. So what works for some, does not
work for others. Here is something I found really
disturbing: It is estimated that 8 million Americans have
an eating disorder – seven million women and one million
men. There are three women for every 100 American women
who suffer from bulimia. Our guest today is Lorri Benson.
Lorri along with her daughter Taryn have written the book
DISTORTED:
How a Mother
and Daughter Unraveled the Truth, the Lies, and the
Realities of an Eating Disorder.
Lorri is here to share their story with us today.
Lorri Benson felt blessed. She had a
loving husband with a lucrative job in the financial
industry, matched by her own career as the senior
producer for a long-running, prestigious television
show. She had three beautiful daughters and what seemed
to be the perfect family life—until the day she walked
in on her oldest daughter Taryn inducing vomiting in
their bathroom. Where had she gone wrong? Hadn’t she
given her daughter security, a stable home? Hadn’t she
followed all the experts’ advice about parenting?
What began as a shocking, surreal moment for Lorri
became a painful journey for her, Taryn and her entire
family; a journey that would include intense emotional
chess, shocking realizations, and distressing life
lessons.
In her search for understanding the mania that drove her
daughter to an eating disorder—and the realization that
her daughter’s recovery was a farce—Benson faced her
insecurities as a parent. Not content to witness
helplessly as her daughter destroyed her body and their
family, Benson went through a grueling
self-introspection and watched as her relationship with
her daughter changed forever.
Distorted chronicles their story, written in the hopes
that other parents, spouses, siblings, and friends can
learn from their ordeal. It’s not just a cautionary tale
about the dangers of eating disorders. It’s not another
memoir of an anorectic or bulimic. This book
dramatically examines an eating disorder from dual
perspectives, revealing many highly charged issues—a
daughter’s deception that she wants to be cured; a
mother’s guilt and feeling of helplessness; the impact
of the lies, the mistrust, and the financial strain on
family dynamics; and how normal teenage angst between a
mother and daughter is exacerbated by an eating
disorder.
Distorted is a raw, brutally honest account, from two
people who have lived the manipulation and the nightmare
of an eating disorder.